On one lazy Saturday recently, I was sitting inside and watching the rain come down hard outside. I was warm in my leopard-print Snuggie and Hello Kitty slippers. I was in the middle of my usual morning routine chugging a pumpkin latte and mindlessly clicking through all my social media platforms when I almost scrolled past a picture on Facebook. I scrolled back up. Awww, I thought to myself.
After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience. But that didn't stop his new profile picture, girl an unknown woman next to him.
Sure, she could be a friend, ugly seeing two people in the same profile picture is basically a giveaway. Again, I didn't feel I had the right to be upset.
We were never exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! What was going on? After doing some soul searching, I realized my reasons were different for each person. Ugly the first ex, I still relied on him for emotional support the way I did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship.
Plus, when I broke up with him, he said he refused to move on and planned to marry me — a promise he obviously couldn't keep, but it planted in the back of my mind the assumption that if I ever had a change of heart, he would be there.
With the second non ex, I realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed it.
I know I'm not alone in feeling devastated over an ex moving on. A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media. Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on Girlsgirl obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos.
Beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "Put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you. Your ex dating not get an upgrade. The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you.
The fact that you broke up wasn't a failure on your part; things just didn't work out, and they might not work out with this dating person either. Your ex moving on is not a testament to your inadequacy. It's the worst when your ex's new significant other is someone you don't even like. It can make you start to question yourself: "If that's what he's into, am I like that?
One person can date two very different people.
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Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning.
People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. Whatever Beyonce may say, nobody's replaceable. Is focusing on what is part? CauseNEffect Xper 7.
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The worst bit is that they are still breathing. I mean, you pray for them to fall into an industrial meat grinder and hope for the best. If you obsess over an ex both of them will feel the worst. So why should gurl care. They can date whoever the hell they want. Their choice. MTiago11 Xper 2. I can see the reasoning behind both options but tbh you always feel better if at the end of it your ex got a downgrade don't dafing Cause if you've been upgraded then you'll be adting but fodder in their relationship cv.
I think it would matter if they cheat on me. If she's dating someone that's ugly, than what does that say about me, am I ugly too? Wraithofsparta Xper 3. PondyPand Master. Neither because a I don't know and b I don't care. There's a reason they are an ex.
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What's worse is actually giving a crap. Focus on yourself, he did after all.
None, the worse thing is that you still give a crap. Jackieboi Xper 6. Ahah what a great question i font really know since no matter which one it is you know theyre "better than you". VixenRach opinions shared on Dating topic. Really hot, because then you'd assume that your looks or lack thereof played a part in the breakup. This is a really tough one lol :P tirl ugly of course. If you remember WHY he's your ex, you should realize that it doesn't matter who he dates, hot uglj not.
What matters is I don't give a damn what they do, if they're wildly successful or a miserable failure.
Datng history. Done with it. It makes no difference to me, they are an ex for a reason. TacosRAwesome 4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Ex getting married to someone else within a year.
Their looks don't matter much. CuriousMufuxka 1. I don't tend to check up, but I have been curious as to why women always want to be friends after. Hmm, maybe this is why lol.
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GuyWithAnOpinion Xper 2. Personally it shouldn't bother you so much see if they are happy and if they are than be happy for them. Be the ugy person. If they are dating very ugly people then they clearly dont care About looks and care about behaviors making me feel like a jackass.
Which is worse? Ex dating someone really hot or really ugly? - GirlsAskGuys
Factshurt90 opinions shared on Dating topic. Who the hell cares? Appearances say nothing about how happy the relationship makes them. ShoeGirl24 opinions shared on Dating topic. It would be harder if she was hot. Especially if you have low self esteem. Jxy95 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Really hot will make me feel like it was because I am not good looking ugly that is why they left me hurt my self-esteem. JanuaryCanine Yoda. Lavinnykins opinions shared girl Dating topic. My ex dated only for physical reasons so I'd pity the pretty girl he chose.
Don't care, plus my exws can't get anyone hotter them me unless she's a blow up doll, it's not like I dated Nick Batemans. I'm ex dumped me for a super ugly dude and it's haunts me thinking about why. What was so bad about me that he was better. Shaun Xper 2. Dunno why dating should care what exes do, but id be more secure if the new guy was not more attractive than myself. BuchitaBuchys 1.
Xating didn't vote. You're worse for even caring what your ex does. Just move on already like he obviously did. Are they a better person? Something datinng attracted them to her. ShesAmerican opinions shared on Dating topic.
If you care what your ex is sticking their genitalia in Jooying opinions shared on Dating topic. MrMilti glrl shared on Dating topic. I dont care about, what my exes do. Thats why they are exes. ATuairiscean Guru. Dating advice unless you are friends with them move on and take no notice. Chaz Yoda. The worst is if you're paying attention to them at all. They're your ex for a reason. Move on. Future7 Xper 2. I really dont care. If i already decide to move past you.
I thought about it deeply well. Doesn't matter, it'll hurt regardless. That's why your ex shouldn't be part of your life. If they are ugly then why would I be jealous? If anything I would hope to date someone girp to show them I can do better. My ex is currently dating a bitch who girl like a bird.
I ain't even joking either. I would feel worse if he was dating someone really hot. The fact that ugly even have an ex shows ou failed at being a woman and are now damaged goods. AoiKaito Xper 6. I really don't care.